Temporary pregnancy, permanent child

I don’t blame prospective adoptive couples for thinking agencies are a good idea.  Most of them have no idea that the mother-to-be is getting no counseling, no advice, no nothing until they’ve matched (which I continue to think explains the rate of people backing out and deciding to parent at the last minute).  Plus, they think it’s a good way to protect themselves from the scammers out there.

Honestly, though, at this point, I think agencies MOST benefit the mothers who are looking for a lot of money out of this.  Agencies probably make fantastic intermediaries for requesting living expenses or whatever else the state allows them to request.  For those of us who live in a state that allows medical and legal expenses only, and who wouldn’t request other money regardless, they seem to do absolutely nothing.

I take back everything positive I’ve ever said about agencies.  I’m one email away from scrapping a match with a family because of the agency they’re working through.

I am 33 weeks pregnant.  It is snowing.  I’m stressed about the pregnancy, the birth, my finances, and I am cold.  I do not need the agency that is supposed to be making this process easier being the worst thing about this entire time.

Honestly, my doctor’s office would really like to talk to them.  They have a release authorizing them to do so.  Why, then, is this agency refusing to allow me to move forward with the family I have picked out and who would like to move forward with me because they don’t have a specific form on file in their office that they could fax to the doctor’s office??  Not to mention it’s a form I don’t feel comfortable signing *anyway*, they have exactly what they need!